Thank you, Heather, for this wonderful experience and the opportunity to join with women in yoga and hiking communion. First, I cannot express how much I appreciate you providing me with the loft bedroom suite. It was lovely and gave me the privacy and sleep I needed for such an intense experience. Second, the hike, the yoga, the qigong, the time, the space, the food - too much but someone (me) needs to exercise more self control – were all perfect. I couldn’t have asked for anything different. Third, I am so thankful for you accepting me as a woman and including me in women’s spaces. I know everyone is not so comfortable with that as you are – and I am grateful and appreciative for it. I do have two concerns to share with you – and we can discuss them further offline if/when you would like. I totally understand that many of the women who attended are experiencing major life transitions and welcomed the opportunity to hear their stories. I feel the discussions of the womb are so important to women, and I would never ask you to change it. And I know you were sensitive to me being the only woman in the group who likely could not fully identify with this. There really isn’t an “ask” here – just a request for continued sensitivity to women who were not born in female bodies. This next topic is more difficult for me. When I am in public, I fully expect to be misgendered. Even though I present fully female, my voice betrays me to many people. So I did expect there to be some adjustment period this weekend. However, I did not expect the level of misgendering that I experienced. What was most devastating to me was when it occurred in the final circle from someone who I had cared for and who told me they felt safe with me. After being misgendered by them, I did not feel safe at all with them. I continue to not understand how someone can see me – who I am and how I present – and misgender me. Perhaps they really don’t see me. Thankfully, Rachel, Amy and Olive took care of me Sunday. I would hesitate to attend another retreat unless there was a frank discussion of gender up front. I found in the end I didn’t even know what pronouns to use for Olive. I would also caution any other non-binary women about attending if this discussion were not to happen. I love you, Heather. You are one of the most incredible people and women I know. I also understand these events are exhausting for you, and it is totally unreasonable to expect you to be able to take care of every person in every situation that could arise. So please don’t put any personal responsibility on yourself for what I experienced. We all can strive to do better at taking care of each other.